Dhakad Matrimony

Did you ever get a chance to listen to the famous lines i.e. It happens only in India!! Well, yes, that’s even more applicable to the context of the diverse wedding rituals our country has, as some of them are outright bizarre! India is a conglomeration of languages, cultures, and religions and yet in almost every community, there are some awful matrimonial ceremonies hard to reckon with. Here are a few of them – Mandatory Change of Mind In specific Tamil Brahmin communities, a groom has to change his mind at the last minute mandatorily and refuse to become a married man. He is then ritualistically counseled by his uncle or his father on the merits of becoming a ‘Sansarik’ and not a ‘Sanyasi.’ He’s told in detail about the significance of matrimony and ‘Grihastha Ashram ‘ and his roles and duties as a husband, so he comes back to his senses and agrees to sit at the marriage altar. Drink that Dude! Among Gujaratis, it’s mandatory to have the groom’s feet washed with milk a...

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. Marriage is between two individuals coming straight from different families. There is a great diversity in their upbringing, vision, culture, traditions, beliefs, habits, etc. whether it is a love marriage or an arranged marriage. In the age of digitization, there are so many leading matrimonial sites that have created a platform for people to reach others for partners for life. Nowadays, the groom and the bride are well-educated and independent in their thought and behavior. The two individuals have to stay together 24*7, hence they should be aware of their likes and dislikes, their expectations from their partners and what they can accept and what they can’t accept. Before getting married, both the groom and the bride has the option to accept or reject, without losing anything. 1. Personal Habits Discuss your habits, which you feel can be annoying for the other, such as snoring, boozing, gambling, smoking, etc. There are certa...

In India, the wedding is not only a two soul relationship but it is the wedding between two families. This holy thread connects two people together and their families too. These days, there are many matrimonial sites to search the bride and groom for your child, sibling or friend. The concept of a wedding is the same all over the world but the culture, rituals, and traditions differ from place to place and what I believe that the Hindu wedding follows extensive rituals and traditions to celebrate the wedding. Among the customs and rituals, the important ones are Jaimala, Sindoor Daan, wearing of Mangal sutra and the Seven vows taken by the bride and groom while taking Saat Pheras around the sacred fire. The couple seeks the blessings of God and fire to be together for the next seven births by taking the Saat Phere. The hymn of Seven vows are chanted by the Priests of the family and the bride and the groom repeats them during their turns. But do they know the terms of t...